Turning Out Life’s Cupboards: Making Significant Life Changes
When you’re doing a quick tidy up, your things probably won’t get messier than when you started. At least, they shouldn’t!
On the other hand, when you’re having a major refurbishment, there is always a stage when things are a lot more chaotic than when you started. Although that can be stressful, you know that the gains will be worth it, so you press on through and eventually you enjoy the rewards.
All major life changes work the same way. For example:
- When you over-hall your emotional cupboards, things may get a messy before you get things straight again.
- When you start eating more healthily, you may go through a phase when your body screams out for the bad stuff.
- When your spiritual focus shifts, you might find that your life seems topsy-turvy for a while.
So, how do you handle these experiences?
- If you’re sorting your life out, prepare for the messy patches.
- If you can avoid it, don’t try to sort out too much all at once.
- Recognise the untidy times for what they are, and persevere with the change.
- Remember that the messy patch won’t last forever.
- Be encouraged that you’re not just dealing with surface issues in your life, but dealing with something deeper.
- Don’t pretend that nothing is going on. Look to others for support.
- Understand that, even if other people don’t understand why you’re stressed, that doesn’t invalidate the way that you feel.
- Remind yourself why you started cleaning up your life. Keep your eyes on the goal.
- Learn to recognise the messy patches in other people’s change process, and encourage them to press on through.
- Take care of yourself.
Above all, don’t give up on yourself.